Midlife Transformation: How to Find the Right Life Coach in 4 Simple Steps

Funny story: the first life coach I ever hired was about a decade ago, just a few years into my own midlife transformation. (By the way, “midlife” technically starts at 40 and runs until 65 — yep, that means you’re a young adult until 39! Who knew?! 🤷🏽‍♀️)

At the time of hiring my first life coach, my identity was expanding beyond being a pediatrician into something bigger: supporting children and the women who brought them through my doors.

And yet, the #1 thing I told my own life coach? “A lot may feel up in the air about my life right now, but what I do know is… I don’t want to do what you do. Coaching? Nope! Not for me.”

Fast forward to working with my very first coaching client, and guess what I texted my own life coach right afterwards?

“I absolutely LOVE being a coach!” 😍🎉🎉🎉

My life coach and I had a big laugh over the irony of that ah-ha moment. Which just proves: you can’t always believe what you think. 🤔💭

Most of those “truths” rattling around in your head, holding you in a pattern of discontent? Total B.S. — Belief Systems you grabbed in childhood like a security blanket.

And though they may have worked back then, now they could be tripping you up; keeping you spinning in low-vibe stress cycles instead of striding confidently into your dream life.

➡️ The longer your daily life is interrupted by confusion, fear, and the mayhem that comes with constant busyness, the harder it can be to trust yourself to make midlife a season of joy.

Staying unsupported through midlife can:
😩 Rob you of energy
😡 Siphon your peace
😔 Quietly harm your relationships
🫥 Limit your capacity to experience joy
😪 Deplete your self-esteem and inner trust
😰 Create distance with the people you love
🤢 Make your stress load heavier
🥸 Speed up the aging process

💛💫 Midlife is too sacred to waste on second-guessing yourself.

✦ The Surprisingly Fun Reason to Get a Life Coach NOW

Once upon a time, when you were in your teens and twenties, you may have imagined the milestones of life ahead — walking down the aisle, raising a family, building a career you loved. But somewhere along the way, life got a lot messier than the ✨ fairy tale ever after ✨ you’d pictured. 😝

No matter what your Midlife Personality Type is — the Visionary, Inspirational, Giver, or Detail Mama — chances are you can spot yourself in at least one of the ways “happily ever after” actually plays out in midlife…

😑 Procrastination that lasts so long it deserves an Olympic medal.
😬 Perfectionism so brightly polished it competes with the sun.
🙃 A PhD in people-pleasing, self-doubt, and “What if I’m not enough?” thinking.
😵 Worry on a 24/7 hamster wheel.
🤯 Overthinking everything (including whether or not you’re overthinking 😅).
😩 Exhaustion when your name is last on your own to-do list… again.
🤪 Fun Amnesia that has you forgetting what playful joy even feels like.

Sound familiar?

Midlife can feel like a sort of repeat of adolescence — breakouts, bad hair days, and many “Does anyone even get me?” vibes. Midlife really is like puberty 2.0 — messy, unpredictable, and awkward as heck. Which is exactly why having a coach now makes so much sense – you’ve got so much to navigate!

Working with a life coach isn’t just healing — it can actually be A LOT of fun. You can laugh and grow at the same time. 🙃🌿

And let’s not underestimate the simple joy of having time just for you.

Starting a coaching session is like dropping life’s baggage at the door, having a great time, and then stepping back into your day with a lighter heart, clearer mind, and more energy. 🐛🦋

Life coaches are people with big hearts for service, curious minds for learning, and a gift for guiding you to access your inner wisdom so you can start to see yourself (and those around you) in a new light — making it much, much easier to take aligned action and create the life and relationships you crave.

Curious what working with a life coach is really like? If you’re wondering how to make your move, here are important tips for finding the right coach. What makes them right? That they’re aligned with YOU! 🙌🏿

 

✦ 5 Important Qualities To Look For In A Life Coach

Think of your search for a life coach like dating — you’re not swiping right on just anyone! Instead, use these five clues to tell if a coach is truly a fit for you:

😎 Vibe Check
If it doesn’t feel good, move on. Your gut knows the difference between “Yes, yes! This feels so right!” and “Eww, nope. Next, please!” Trust your instincts. Just because someone is a terrific life coach for someone else, doesn’t mean they’re automatically a fit for you – and that’s okay! Your aligned coach is out there. 🙂

🌻 Proof of Life
Pick someone who’s actually living how you want in some way — whether that’s more daily joy, strong boundaries, close relationships, or work that lights them up.

🕵🏽 Street Cred
Skip the smoke and mirrors by looking at real testimonials, asking past clients for their take, or getting a friend’s read on a potential coach. Red flags? Believe them.

📝 Paperwork That Doesn’t Make You Twitch
The details (pricing, policies, packages) must feel clean and clear. If something’s fuzzy, ask. A pro won’t dodge your questions!

🚖 Test Drive
A single one-off session, free call, or trial run — is always worth it. Think of it as a test run. If it doesn’t feel right, you’re not committed long term! And if it feels amazing? You’ve hit the midlife transformation jackpot! 🌈🥰

✦ 5 Simple Places to Find Your Next Life Coach

Spoiler: they’re not hiding under a rock. 🪨 From your own circle to the wide-open internet, here’s where the best coaches tend to show up:

👯 Your Circle
Sometimes the people you already know (the ones truly enjoying their life) are secretly working with, or have worked with, a coach. Ask around.

📱 Social Media
Yes, really. Scroll a little, watch some stories — you can pick up on a coach’s vibe fast and reach out when you’re ready.

🌎 Internet Search, Baby!
The whole internet is your oyster. Search by specialty or location, then book a one-off session or free call to explore further.

🏆 Tony Robbins Results Coaching
Tony has been an instrumental pioneer in life coaching since the early 1980s. Since then, he’s spent 40+ years coaching millions of people worldwide — from U.S. presidents to pro athletes – and trained thousands of life coaches on how to do the same.

(Surprise! I’m in Tony’s rigorous coach training and serve as a Senior Leader on his team.) You can explore working with a Tony Robbins coach here. (P.S. This isn’t an affiliate link, just a great resource!)

😉 Soulfull Medicine
You know I had to say it! 😅 I’ve spent years training, coaching, and building a proven system that helps midlife women shift from stressed to seriously lit-up. ⚡️

If you’re nodding along as you read this — “Hiii!” 😊👋🏻 — you may have just found your life coach. 🙋🏼‍♀️💞

Ready?! Take $50 off your first one-off coaching session with coupon code SOULFULLYES.

✦ 3 Powerful Steps to Transformation with Your Life Coach

Curious what working with a life coach is really like? Whether you’ve dabbled, gone deep, or are brand new to a coaching experience, these three shifts are the magic that keep women coming back for more.

😮 You Spill It
Whatever’s weighing you down — stress, sadness, or straight-up rage — a coaching session is your safe, accepting space to put it all on the table.

🤩 You See It Differently
A good coach helps you zoom out, shift perspective, master new skills, and find fresh clarity you didn’t know you had. And a great coach? They don’t just tell you their opinion or lay out next steps — they guide you to access your own inner wisdom. Because the deepest truths of your life? Live within YOU.

🥳 You Move It
Relief! Confidence! A huge smile on your face! With a great coach by your side, you never have to stay stuck in a problem ever again. You walk away from each and every coaching session with one clear, doable next step that actually creates traction.

 

✦ Hello, Clarity! Your MOST Soulfull Life Can Start Right NOW

Creating a life you feel incredible in doesn’t happen overnight — but it does begin with just one bold move: choosing.

Choose to show up for yourself.
Choose to believe better is possible.
Choose to receive the support you deserve. 💞

The decision to try out life coaching can truly unlock everything you’ve been hoping could be real for your life.

From a calmer home life, to more power over your work life, closer, more peaceful relationships, and that graceful sparkle of lightness and wholehearted living you know is possible, but simply haven’t figured out how to create for yourself yet – it’s all possible.

Often, the very next step after choosing to say yes to the idea of life coaching is hiring a life coach — someone who walks beside you through challenge, helps you untangle patterns keeping you stuck, and guides you toward a life you absolutely love waking up to. 🩵

Working with a life coach is different than venting to your best friend, crying to your partner, or problem-solving with your favorite second cousin over margaritas. 😅

Because a great life coach has countless of hours of experience helping people, like you, solve problems from a place of emotional neutrality and integrity, plus, a suite of powerful tools to share that are backed by research and proven to work.

Can you imagine a master of transformation helping you handpick a sacred path to joy and relief? Someone who genuinely cares, being there for you as you take new steps forward and heal from the limits that held you back in the past? If you can imagine it, you deserve to have it!

In a world of easy buttons and endless distractions, it takes a dose of bravery to choose growth over avoidance, yes over maybe, and truly step up into the soul-fullest version of life. 💫

So make your move, Mama! By this time next week, you could already be looking back and thinking: “Why didn’t I do this sooner?” 🥰

xo,

P.S. Midlife’s puberty 2.0 doesn’t have to be so awkward and depleting!

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🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 “I felt overwhelmed, uncertain about my circumstances, and lacked confidence in making choices for my life. Now, I feel empowered, confident, and capable of setting boundaries – something I struggled with previously. The fear that once held me back has decreased significantly. Now, I can clearly see my strengths and talents AND share them with others!” – Patricia

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