Personal Growth Begins When You Finally Slow Down
For most of my life, I believed there was only one season — the season of DO-ing.
If I wasn’t creating, producing, or pushing something forward, I felt like I was falling behind. Rest? That was for later — when everything was done. (And when is life ever done? Exactly. 🙃)
In my 30s, between raising little humans, running a medical practice, and trying to “do it all,” I was face-down on my chiropractor’s table — frustrated that my healing wasn’t happening faster — when he suggested I slow down.
Cue my very professional response: “I’ve got sh*t to do!” 😳
He paused for a beat (probably questioning his career choices) before calmly saying, “Wow. I’d meditate on that one.” Mic drop. 🎤
Even resting during healing felt like a waste of time.
Then came my 40s — the decade of reckoning. Midlife has a funny way of holding up a mirror, doesn’t it? The pace that once felt powerful started to feel punishing. My body repeatedly whispered, “Slow down,” while my mind relentlessly ranted, “Keep going!” 😵💫
Now, in my 50s, I wish I could say I’ve mastered the art of rest — but truthfully, I’m still learning to praise it. It still feels like I’m doing something wrong when I stop moving.
Yet healing — and personal growth — require a relaxed, regulated nervous system, not a constantly stressed-out one in motion. 💆🏻♀️
Growth doesn’t just happen in the noise of DO-ing. ☀️
It also happens in the quiet of BE-ing. 🌙
What if rest is actually a sacred time to recharge and get ready?
✦ The Four Surprising Seasons Of Personal Growth
Just like plants, we need seasons — nobody blooms all year long.
(Unless you’re a rose or an African violet — my grandmother’s and mom’s favorites. Clearly, my family’s been training me to overachieve in the garden of life. 😅)
🌸 Spring brings fresh ideas.
☀️ Summer fuels momentum.
🍂 Fall gathers the harvest.
❄️ Winter reflects.
Winter looks still, but beneath the surface, roots are deepening, the soil is replenishing, and energy is quietly gathering for what’s next. 🌱
Personal growth follows the same rhythm — a cycle that mirrors both the earth and the feminine energy within us. Every new moon — or every time your body begins a new cycle — you’re invited to begin again: to rest, to restore, and to rise rooted in what truly matters. 🌙
And these rhythms don’t stop with the moon or menses; they echo through the seasons of every year — and every life.
If life were a perfect circle, we’d just spin in place — repeating the same lessons (and probably buying the same skincare). 😉
But personal growth isn’t a circle. It’s a spiral — each turn bringing a little more awareness, a little less resistance, and, if we’re lucky, a better sense of humor. 🤣
Here’s how each season unfolds:
❄️ REST — Winter
Growth begins in stillness — like winter soil resting beneath a blanket of snow, this is your time to go inward.
Rest, release, and restore your energy. Reflect on what’s no longer serving you and let it melt away. 😌
🌸 THINK — Spring
Like seedlings reaching for sunlight, your thoughts are stretching toward what’s next.
New ideas start to sprout, your mind feels fresh and curious, and it’s officially your brainstorm season — time to organize, plan, and play with possibilities. 🤩
☀️ FEEL — Summer
Just like flowers opening to the sun, your energy blooms.
This is your most magnetic season — time to connect, create, and express from the heart. You’re glowing, radiant, and alive. 🤗
🍂 DO — Fall
The energy begins to turn inward again — integrating lessons, pruning what’s outgrown, and preparing for the sacred slowdown ahead.
Like trees shedding their leaves, this is your season to release with intention — to finish what’s ready, clear the clutter, and celebrate what you’ve already accomplished (it’s more than you think). 🙌🏾
The more you flow with your season, the easier it is to grow without burning out. That’s when growth becomes sustainable. 🌱✨
✦ How Support Speeds Personal Growth (and Makes Healing Happen Sooner)
A dear friend of mine once spent years in what she calls her “season of medicine.”
Her days became a blur of appointments, treatments, and trying to stay hopeful through the hard stuff. Eventually, the grind wore her down — her body was exhausted, and her spirit? Broken.🪽
One day, she realized something had to change — not her doctors, not her meds, but her approach.
She couldn’t keep muscling through life alone. So, against every instinct to stay independent, she joined a weekly support group for others walking the same path.
After her first meeting, she told me:
“I hated it at first. I didn’t trust anyone. I didn’t even want to be there. But by the end of the hour, I felt safe. I felt seen. And that was the first real healing I’d had in years.”
Her body didn’t heal overnight, but her heart began to. 💗
Her season shifted — from isolation to connection, from control to surrender.
That’s the quiet magic of personal growth: learning to let the spiral (and support) carry you, even when you don’t know exactly where it’s going next.
We’re not meant to heal or grow alone. 💕
✦ Your Invitation To A New Season Of Personal Growth
You might be in a season of DO-ing — pushing forward, building momentum, crossing things off that color-coded to-do list. ✏️
Or you might be in a season of BE-ing — letting your roots quietly gather strength beneath the surface. 🌱
Either way, please don’t go it alone.
Every season gets softer when we share it — with women who get it, who can hold space for the messy, magical middle without trying to fix it. ✨
That’s exactly what we do inside the Soulfull Community — a cozy circle where midlife women come together to rest, reflect, laugh, and remember that slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind. It means aligning with the rhythm of your soul. 💗
✦ How to Surrender to the Season of Personal Growth You’re In
The spiral of growth doesn’t just happen in community — it also unfolds quietly inside you.
Some seasons feel vibrant and unstoppable. Others are slower, quieter, or downright uncomfortable (looking at you, winter). 😮💨
But all are sacred. All are growth — even the ones that don’t feel like it.
If you’re not sure what season you’re in right now — or how to honor it instead of fighting it — I’ll show you how to recognize your rhythm and use it to restore balance, clarity, and joy. 🌙✨
👇 Keep reading for a simple way to tell which season you’re in (and how to flow with it instead of against it).
